My baby brother enters high school this fall. He’s grown up quite well, but I want him to understand a concept of emotional abuse – just in case it happens to him.
The dumbest fights I ever saw in high school ALWAYS had to do with something about another guy’s girl. They were funny as hell to watch, but not exactly smart thinking.
EDIT: The medical advice is talking about when treatment isn’t working, it’s painful and expensive, and you’re ready to stop. I’m not insinuating to not go to the doctor.
Anyone can be emotionally abusive – man, woman, enby, etc… EDIT: “Enby” is “non-binary.” I was taught it was spelled as “enby,” but I might not be right on that.
This is a hostage situation. They are threatening you with someone’s life – that life just happens to be their own.
That’s a violation of a person’s autonomy. Let’s talk more about that. (see next image)
And that’s what an abuser is trying to make you do. They want you to consent to being responsible for them. You don’t have to do that.
I reiterate: You don’t have to do ANYTHING, except call 911 the first time. If they try to contact you again to make that threat, block them. You have the right to walk away from that “responsibility.”
It’s okay if you still feel bad about it. It means you have empathy – something emotional abusers LOOOVVEEE.
I am sure our parents will be thrilled with me teaching you about masochism. But I mentioned it to say that there are people who actively seek to hurt themselves because they LIKE it – and they have a right to do that.
There’s a reason my text layout includes the little dots and extra paragraph breaks. If you’re interested in the reason behind this, I explained it here.